Maslow says, in regards to our changing that...
~it is in our nature to grow, even when we are not trying to
~We have 2 forces within- the pull toward safety and the pull toward growth (oscillate between safety/growth, dependence/independence, regression/progression)
~failure to respect the child's innate growth choices result in the child's loss of a sense of self..(psychic death).
~that need gratification drives behavior in a hierarchial manner
Quantum change
elements that distinguish quantum change include sudden, dramatic, enduring.
outcomes?
~release from negative feelings
~a change in values and priorities
~change in relationships
~feeling of interconnectedness
~sense of gratitude
An 'emergentist' view of quantum change, therapeutically speaking....
~an environment that fosters change
~a spiritual component
~guidance in managing feelings
~living through the questions
self concordant goals: consistant with the person's interest and core values...
~more investment of energy and more sustained effort
~stronger feeling of autonomy, competence, relatedness
Intrinsic vs extrinsic goals:
intrinsic: produce good things, greater self-actualization, feelings of vitality, less depression/anxiety...
extrinsic goals (success, money, material) have more emotional/physical conflicts with partners.
Adaption principle:
we return to our baseline levels of happiness... the lotto winner and the recent parapalegic... both return to their baseline levels.
lotto winner: gets accustomed to new comforts, takes advantage eventually...sinks back into baseline levels
parapalegic: life is over...initial frustration, begins to adapt and make modest goals.
you will always return to your default level of happiness...mostly genetic.
Are our efforts for happiness futile...
i certaintly think not.
